When a wife decides that she is no longer going to have sex with her husband…it is called Marital Abandonment. It goes both ways but in a nut shell she has decided to abandon her duty to him as his wife. If she is healthy and there is nothing medically wrong that is keeping her from having sex with him then it is her duty as his wife to fulfill his needs. With choosing not to have sex with him it shouldn’t hurt or be a surprise(especially after he waits for his wife for years) that there is someone else fulfilling his needs. Yes, there is the option to get a divorce before this happens but the responsibility for that course of action should be with the wife because she stopped participating in the marriage. Why would a husband divorce his wife if he truly loves her and still desires her? It is the wife that no longer desires the husband but she is hurt and distraught because he is having an affair. The problem began with her; if she doesn’t want to lose him then don’t stop having sex with him.