A real man accepts responsibility for his actions, admits when he is wrong, apologizes for hurting the one he loves, does whatever he needs to do to correct the issue and does his best not to do the same thing over again.
Last Saturday I married my first couple…It was very intense and exciting. I was nervous but I was ok. All week I immersed myself in the Bible and what it says about love, loving each other and marriage. I had an epiphany; most couples get caught up in the wedding and the day not realizing that they are agreeing to so much more. They are agreeing to be solely responsible for each other for the rest of there lives and I am the one that will determine there union legal and binding. I now believe that you should only get married if you have had counseling or a talk with someone that has been married for more than 10 years. Marriage is a sanctified union..it should be thoughtfully considered and researched as if you were buying a house or a car. You should know beyond a shadow of doubt that this is the person that you want to spend everyday of the rest of your life with. You should know that trials and tribulations will come. You should be aware of the fact that people change and grow; there should be room for growth and change to happen for both of you. There should be support and communication no matter what the issue is. You should always keep in mind why you fell in love with this person and work hard to keep the love alive. Marrying someone is just like taking care of a plant. You have to attend to it everyday. Showering love on it, watering it, feeding it, giving it sunshine and talking to it. The marriage will not survive without giving both sides the attention that is needed. You should leave no room for want, need or desire. Make sure that after God; your husband or wife is the first person you think about in the morning and the last person you think about at night.
I wanted to share the ceremony I created for the couple I married last Saturday. I have not included complete names for privacy reasons:
Richard and Jennifer’s wedding ceremony
In honor and remembrance to Richard’s parents- May God Bless the dearly departed.
In greetings of honor and love to Jennifer’s parents- May God bless the love you both share.
Dearly Beloved and honored guest, we gather here today to pledge honor to the day that Richard and Jennifer first met and all the meetings that came after. It is easy to think that a couples life begins after the wedding ceremony but the truth is their lives began the moment they first met. Whether it was when they both crossed paths when one was younger than the other, or if they were in the same class, or if they were at a crowded bar to celebrate a mutual friend’s birthday, or even if it was with the click of the “send” button on an online dating site.
Richard and Jennifer have decided that today they would pledge honor to their first meeting with each other and all the meetings that have come after. They are pledging to honor all the good that it has made of them and all the good it will make of them all the days of their life together.
Richard do you promise to continue to become the best and bravest person you are meant to be?
Richard: I Do.
Do you promise to support and cheer on Jennifer as she continues to become the best and bravest person she is meant to be?
Jennifer do you promise to continue to become the best and bravest person you are meant to be?
Jennifer: I Do.
Do you promise to support and cheer on Richard as he continues to become the best and bravest person he is meant to be?
May I have the rings please:
Wedding rings serve as the symbol of the covenant you have just spoken. They are the outward and visible sign of an inward and invisible love which binds your hearts together. As they are made of the finest of earth’s materials, so your love is of the richest of spiritual values. As rings are without edge or seam, having no beginning and no end, so they symbolize the perfection of a love that cannot end.
Let us pray:
Bless these rings ,O God, to be the visible sign of the vows made here. That each who gives a ring and each who wears one may be reminded of their promises, evermore living and growing in the spirit of your love. Amen.
Richard repeat after me: Jennifer with this ring I thee wed.
Jennifer repeat after me: Richard with this ring I thee wed.
May your home be filled with laughter and the warm embrace of a summer day.
May you find peacefulness and beauty, challenge and satisfaction, humor and insight, healing and renewal, love and wisdom as in a quiet heart.
May you always feel that what you have is enough.
By the power vested in me by the state of Maryland I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Richard you may kiss your bride!
Whom God has joined together let no man put asunder. Amen.